经过安妮·加里亚诺（Anne Gagliano）
色情是伪造的。这是对婚姻内真正的爱的真实事物的模仿，并将其视为令人愉悦的选择。令人满意的替代品。但是，就像所有伪造者一样，这是一个骗人的谎言，目的是欺骗，作弊，抢劫。一种巨大的假装愉悦，实际上是一文不值的假。
在我的上一专栏中，“色情无害吗？Part 1，”我引用了酋长（ret。）斯坦·塔诺夫斯基（Stan Tarnowski）警告说，色情是当今消防站的一个猖ramp的问题，那就是“……#1 vicethat challenges our firefighters to remain morally sound and morally courageous while on duty.” I also wrote that porn is as addictive as any drug, and this is particularly alarming, as it is so readily available to anyone at any time.
但大多数情况下，我认为硬核色情因其对亲密关系的影响而有害。许多人认为这是the most harmful addiction when it comes to marriage。造成这种情况的三个主要原因：第一个 -色情对亲密关系产生负面态度- 第1部分中涵盖了其他两个原因。
色情麻木你
You may think that porn arouses you, stimulates, enlivens, but in actuality it numbs you like Novocain. The more you see, the more your sexual sensitivity is deadened, making it increasingly difficult to get stimulated. Normal marital relations become boring. Wives of addicts say that their husbands’ demands for extreme behaviors increase, sometimes even to the point of roughness. “Men are becoming desensitized to it and are therefore seeking out ever harsher, more violent and degrading images. Even the porn industry is shocked by how much violence the fans want.” The things you see in porn are things you’ve never seen before and wouldn’t see otherwise. It becomes difficult to get these images out of your head; once you’re exposed, you’re never the same. What you believed would enliven the marital relationship has instead weekend it; what you thought would make you feel more alive has instead left you feeling empty and unsatisfied. Many husbands lose interest in their wives, and for 68 percent of couples in which one or more person was addicted to Internet porn, one or both lost interest in sex with each other. And pornography, in some estimates, increases marital infidelity by 300 percent.
Porn Trades the Truth for a Lie
色情明星是一个幻想。许多人仅仅18岁以上,their images enhanced or air brushed. Many have had plastic surgery. As mere images on a screen, it is easy to imagine them as mindless or soulless, making them the perfect sex object. The variety is endless to the viewer; all shapes and sizes are readily available. For the addict, the fantasy becomes more appealing than the reality of a real flesh-and blood woman, someone who loves you back—your spouse. That is the lie of porn: It promises fulfillment but instead delivers emptiness and endangers true intimacy. Many users begin to isolate themselves, lie, and exhibit secretive behavior. They can become literally married to the Web, preferring to gratify themselves sexually alone, withdrawing from their partner altogether. It sometimes has the same impact on a marriage as an actual affair; wives feel lied to, cheated on, and replaced by the “perfect woman,” the fantasy—someone they could never be—willing to have sex in ways they will never want.
但这是事实：我对这个主题进行了大量研究，我读过的许多故事和回忆录已被证明是绝对令人心碎的。当相机关闭时，幕后存在的现实只是“理想”。我的丈夫迈克（Mike）是一名长期消防员，他已经进行了无数奔跑，他亲眼目睹了有害的身体和情感上的伤害real世界。他看到了遭受饮食失调和其他严重疾病的毒品和酒精的沉迷于毒品和酒精的心烦意乱且受损的性工作者。他们的悲惨故事和情况一直困扰着他。他们的现实是anythingbut appealing. Many end up walking the streets of his district, prostitution being the final job promotion. It is for these reasons and many more that I believe porn stars are to be pitied, not placed on a pedestal as a sexual ideal. And remember, firefighters, your sacred task is to protect and rescue and save lives; the badge you wear indicates you are “a shield” for the vulnerable. But if you’re watching porn at the firehouse, you denigrate this honorable profession by promoting the potential destruction of porn workers. The “heroic firefighter” becomes a willing participant in the infliction of harm.
“我们色情饱和社会中有很多人认为色情是无害的娱乐。他们经常接受这样的想法，即色情明星确实是被描绘成的无限性爱的神灵和女神。不管overwhelming research和无数个人帐户展示dark reality of the porn industry，许多人仍然喜欢色情行业努力建立的幻想。透明
-Fightthenewdrug.org
婚姻提供了许多美妙的性令人满意的选择，这些选择是健康，充满爱心和true.Porn promises everything but delivers nothing; it is a lie in every sense of the word. The lie of pornography or the truth of marriage—which will you believe? Which will get all your passion, erotic energy, and desire—a computer image or the flesh and blood spouse who has arms to hold you? Will you trade touch for a lonely fantasy? Will you withhold intimacy and fail to meet that need in your spouse? And will you denigrate your calling as a firefighter and encourage an industry that destroys lives? As husband and wife, you become one flesh based on a promise; remember, it is a sacred, joyous privilege to make love in a giving, intimate relationship. The more you look, the clearer it becomes: Pornography is anything but harmless. In words a firefighter can appreciate, pornography is aflaming lie.
References
1。https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/jul/02/gail-dines-pornography。
2。https://fightthenewdrug.org/10-porn-stats-that-will-blow-your-mind。
3。https://fightthenewdrug.org/?s=10+popular+ex-porn+stars+reveal+the+brutal+truth。
安妮·加里亚诺（Anne Gagliano）已与西雅图消防局的迈克·加利亚诺（Mike Gagliano）上尉结婚32年。她和她的丈夫一起讲授建立和保持牢固的婚姻。
