Rosecrance Florian计划主任，芝加哥（L）消防局的“直接谈话”主题演讲在今天上午的“直接谈话”主题演讲中，庆祝心理健康现在是FDIC的杰出话题的事实国际的。他建议听众成员上手机，并：“传达信息，可以在家中，工作和FDIC谈论这个问题。”
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DeGryse’s objective was to share with the audience how to “think better, feel better, and be better.” He noted that it took decades and the courage and initiative of many predecessors to bring about advancement in fireground tactics, structural firefighting gear, and equipment. As far as mental health awareness and education are concerned, the fire service is now [quoting Chief Bobby Halton] “at the beginning of the beginning.”
He explained: “Our career, like a career in the police and military, will change us and affect the person who entered the academy excited, anxious, proud, and willing to do the job. We will repeatedly witness and experience trauma in ways that everyday citizens do not.” He quoted Jeffery Denning, a decorated war hero and the author ofWarrior SOS：“无论是有微妙的变化还是剧烈的变化，在参与战斗之后，没有战士都认为生活一样。”
他补充说，问题的一部分是，没有教会消防人员如何处理受害者和观察者的令人不安的景象及其反应或他们对这种经历的反应。“我们保护生活和财产的使命可能会给我们的心理健康带来影响，从而影响我们生活的各个方面。这个房间里的每个人都可以随时闭上眼睛，并想象他们在职业生涯中经历的场景以及与之相关的感觉。
“我们需要修改的想法和看法being the tough, rugged, strong, and resolute individuals and what that means,”DeGryse asserted. “It is difficult to completely pursue leadership, have pride on the job, and strive to be our best selves unless we first address our mental health.” He asked audience members to “use your personalities, experiences, and characteristics in a way that promotes well-being for all of us. Model behaviors useful to your success; demonstrate vulnerability, encourage others to do the same, and mentor those around you as you see opportunity.” The fire service, DeGryse said, is “learning that we are physically, mentally, and emotionally affected by our experiences, and we need to acknowledge this and take direction on how to address it.”
建模，脆弱性和指导
DeGryse主张消防人员参与“建模”，这是一种学习形式，个人可以通过观察另一个人来确定如何采取行动或执行。他指出，评估每天站在他们旁边的每个人的职责与检查他们的装备，工具和设备一样重要。他说，主管应该作为早晨职责的一部分与他们的同事和下属互动 - “你好吗？”而且，他警告说：“真的是真的。”这应该是您期望回应的问候。他举例说明了一个简单的问候如何成为有意义的相遇。Degryse说，从候选人到酋长。“我要求您成为模特，然后走我们今天正在讨论的步行。让我们以身作则，并建模我们想在同事中看到的行为。”
Addressing vulnerability, DeGryse said it is not comfortable to talk about being susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm, and fire service training teaches that how not to be vulnerable or to put yourself or your team at an unreasonable risk. “I believe differently,” he countered. “We should make an effort to be emotionally vulnerable, to be open to discussing and processing with our peers and families on a regular basis what we encounter as firefighters and paramedics …. These critical events we encounter don’t go away after we leave the scene. We have grown accustomed to masking our feelings and emotions …. we’ve created a mask, a superhero façade, and a cycle of blocking out emotions and feelings, which will negatively affect our health and well-being unless we provide an outlet.” He urged:练习很脆弱。分享您的故事，恐惧，内gui，羞耻。拥有这些感受是人类的，您不必一个人做。”
DeGryse walked the walk himself. He related how making himself vulnerable was “life-changing”: It is difficult to share that there was a time when my wife, despite her love for me, probably didn’t like me very much and didn’t look forward to my coming home after my day at the firehouse. Unfortunately, many days I would come home distant and abrasive even though that was not my intent. My four children would look forward to having their Dad come home to play, and my wife looked forward to spending time with me. However, when I left work and returned home, Dad and husband Dan did not walk through the door. It was the firefighter and peer counselor who came home–tired Dan, distracted Dan, the Dan who had too many things on his mind. This went on for years until we saw a marriage counselor. Our openness and our ability to share took courage, and it saved our marriage, me, and my relationship with my children. It has been a slow, steady climb.”
他还分享说，他的父亲是海军陆战队的退伍军人，以及32年职业生涯后的芝加哥警察局退休中士，与酒精中毒和躁郁症作斗争，这是一种慢性病，带来了情绪，能量，活动和活动的异常转变水平 - 在他的职业生涯中，在保持清醒的同时仍在严重的抑郁症中挣扎。
“Mentoring,” DeGryse said, “is a relationship in which a more experienced or more knowledgeable person guides a less experienced or less knowledgeable person. My mentor was the senior man in the firehouse when I was a candidate. He was a veteran of the job and expected me and the rest of the company to do our job and no more. He would speak calmly whether he was in the kitchen or on the fireground. He was the firehouse treasurer, the driver of the truck, the roof man, the barn boss, and a firefighter who everyone else aspired to be like. If you wanted to learn something, he was willing to teach; all you had to do was ask. A mentor can be anyone.”
DeGryse ended his presentation with this advice: “In an effort to stay connected, reach out to your coworker, your friend, your spouse, your son, daughter, Mom or Dad, or someone here while you are at FDIC. Ask them the simple, yet powerful, question, ‘你好吗？'''
